To the Core of the matter, prt 1

There's no doubt that we all have some kind of blue print and priorities as to who we are.
I seem to be coming under the cosh more and more for what I feel is right and wrong. It's important right away to understand that's in self interest most of the time and it is of course how I perceive things around me.

With age comes hopefully experience and wisdom from all those times we fall down and get back up.However there are some things that we keep hold of from an early age and this could be through a cultural upbringing or the way we are raised, however my grey zone advisor says it can also be down to people misunderstanding and the most important factor is to make them understand.

I hear the word "diplomatic" fairly often and unfortunately it doesn't come in the same context as my name. I looked up the word and found the following:

"In an informal or social sense, diplomacy is the employment of tact to gain strategic advantage, one set of tools being the phrasing of statements in a non-confrontational, or polite manner."

As I interpret this I suppose it means taking a lend of someone to further or better yourself, in a nice manner of course.
Now the main problem, once again as I see it, is down to the fact that I'm not so sure I want to have a strategy to gain an advantage over somebody.Would that be wrong of me to feel it would be easier to level plain things.
Diplomats were put into place to calm down serious situations which had them at the end of the day implying tact to gain advantage.That's why Stalin walked away from Eisenhower and Churchill smiling like a Cheshire cat!The word compromise comes to mind and I quote;

"In the former Soviet Union, the word was rather unknown"

I haven't been the biggest advocate of compromise and yet I do put the two words together, Diplomacy and compromise and yet I do see them as negatives in the way I feel things should be conducted.I do not say I am correct on this subject, just my point of view.

I feel words like honesty and integrity are more positive .Is it possible to have integrity, honesty, the ability to compromise and be diplomatic. Its a tricky one I reckon.
You have to think about about it , a situation where you could look yourself in the mirror and say you didn't have any ulterior motive and that you didn't lie in any way or contort the truth to gain a strategic advantage in a conversation or position.And then again its all down to how you perceived what you were seeking and what the goal was worth.

To help out I have done some research which is part 2.
Interesting reading indeed..
The reason I write this is simple, a close friend said to me recently (not sure if she was joking)

"du kommer aldrig har bra social kompetens, på grund av att du kan inte blir falsk"

Maybe that would explain why the little grey cells are imploding!


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